NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too. 
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins. 
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. . 
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed. 
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.. 
我儿，
写这备忘录给你，基于三个原则：
（一）人生福祸无常，谁也不知可以活多久，有些事情还是早一点说好。
（二）我是你的父亲，我不跟你说，没有人在乎跟你说。
（三）这备忘录记载的，都是我经过惨痛失败得回来的体验，可以为你的成长省回不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好记住的事：
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。至于那些对你好的人，你除了要珍惜，感恩外，也请多防备一点，因为，每个人做每件事，总有一个原因，他对你好，未必真的事因为喜欢你，请你必须搞清楚，而不必太快将对方看作真朋友。
（二）没有人是不可代替，没有东西是必须拥有。看透了这一点，将来你身边的人不再要你，或许失去了世间上最爱的一切时，也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今日你还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，与其盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）世界上并没有最爱这回事，爱情只是一种霎时的感觉，而这感觉绝对会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请耐心地等候一下，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人，可以白手兴家，但不可以手无寸铁，谨记！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样地我也不会供养你的下半辈子，当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。以后，你要坐巴士还是Benz，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你，如果看不透着一点，你只会徒添不必要的烦恼。
（八）我买了十多二十年六合彩，还是一百二穷，连三奖也没中，这证明人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费午餐。
（九）亲人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见。
转载于星洲日报21/7/2011梁继璋写给孩子的一封信 ~ 这也是我要转告给我的孩子的话。
不同的老婆, 不同的结局 (男人版本）
A. 他工作回家。帮忙收拾屋子，烧菜。
她看了他一眼,..心想：“应该的！”然后理所当然的转身走了。
B: 他工作回家。帮忙收拾屋子，烧菜。。
她拽住他：“我来！”
他：“你也累了，你休息吧!”
她：“你太好了！我们一起做吧！”
A: 她：“我晚上出去洗脸了啊。”
他：“几点回家？”
她：“洗完脸很快就回去了。”
九点半，他：“你怎么还不回来啊？”
她：“很快就回家了。”
十一点。十二点。一点……
B: 她：“我晚上出去洗脸。九点之前肯定结束。然后我俩去看电影。”
他：“你能那么快就结束吗？”
她：“放心吧。我答应你了就一定能！”
快到九点的时候。
她：“我扮美美和你去看电影咯”
A: 她晚上下班。给他打电话“宝贝儿。我晚上和朋友出去shopping。”
他：“你不是答应和我吃饭吗？”
她：“改天吧！” 他只好吃快熟面。为什么每次都是这样？
B: 她下班的时候打电话给他:“亲爱的。别人给我一张shopping voucher RM100, 我们待会儿去shopping，好吗？”
他：“哦。这样啊。好吧。”
她：“怎么不高兴了？”
他： “你忘了。上周说好今天我妈生日，你陪我俩吃饭啊。”
她：“哎呀。对不起亲爱的。我忘记了。那我把voucher给别人吧。我陪你和妈去吃饭。”
他： “不要了。吃饭可以改天。或者你先去shopping。我们等你。”
她：“那不行。答应你的事情必须得做到。再说如果我不去，你自己和妈吃饭，她会不高兴的。你也肯定不舒服啊”
他：“Don’t worry! You go ahead for your shopping”
没等他说完。她很强势的告诉他“我也是妈的半个女儿啊。”
女性也真的应该多从男人的角度看问题，改编的文章是特别写给女性朋友看的。
还有一个星期就是农历新年了。开始感觉到新春的气息和回家的感觉，前个星期到吉隆坡参加培训时，已经看到好多购物商场开始张灯节彩，搞搞新春促销+气氛了。。不过我似乎没有感觉到春节的来临，可能忙着training和准备考试的压力吧，所以没有特别的感觉；又或者随着年龄的增长，对农历新年没有任何的期待，反而感觉新年是口袋出血的节日~办年货，新衣~ 给孩子，本身并不刻意购买新衣，压岁钱,送礼等等;要不然就吃个不停，肚子好像没得休息似的，哈哈！我反而比较期待和家人团聚的那一刻。。。在此愿祝大家新春快乐，安康。别忘了，回家时记得安全驾驶，安全第一啊！不要让远在他乡的父母和家人担心。
